I am so excited for my birthday! Picking up the boy from the airport is gonna be the best present ever. :D
Also watching “Coming Home” and crying…because I’m an idiot. This was a terrible choice. So many feels.
First of all, please don’t feel like you’ve wasted your youth. It sounds like you’re in your twenties, and even if you were older…so what? You’ve got plenty of time to do anything you want to do ;)
Moving on though…I’m not sure if you’ve seen my “intro” video, but I am about as shy as they come. I am not an expert in overcoming shyness by any means, but my best advice is to fake it ‘til you make it. Walk into a party like you own the place! I’m so much more outgoing around strangers than my friends. It sounds completely backwards, but it’s easier to play the role of an outgoing person for a few brief hours than to magically stop being shy forever. The more you practice being outgoing in front of strangers, the easier it becomes to stop being shy on a daily basis. Or maybe I’m just insane and you shouldn’t be asking me for advice in the first place. I’m not sure.
As for “getting laid”, your mindset might be your biggest hindrance. Are you looking for a one night stand? A meaningful relationship? A casual fling? I totally and completely respect and support ALL of these options, don’t get me wrong. But a one night stand is still finding a nice girl who would enjoy having sex with you one time without expecting a relationship to unfold. You still have to put yourself out there and seek a partnership (however temporary) from another consenting individual. Thinking of it as some personal conquest will not get you very far. I’m not trying to imply that that’s where your thoughts are at, but given very limited information your word choice set off some alarms for me. If I’m mistaken please forgive me for reading too deeply into your phrasing! And…I’m not sure where guys came up with this idea that they need to be incredibly experienced sex gods by the age of 18, but I think plenty of girls love the idea of being a guy’s “first” just the same way guys do. Just be honest and say you’re inexperienced.
I’m sorry for the novel…I’m really terrible at keeping things concise. But basically, don’t worry about what you have or haven’t done and just go do what makes you happy now! If you want to get drunk, find someone you trust and hit the nearest bar. If you’re content having only gotten drunk twice, then don’t sweat it. Same goes for the weight and the experience with women; work to change the things that matter to you and don’t waste your energy worrying about keeping up appearances or keeping pace with your friends (who are probably exaggerating anyway).
…I’m not sure I’ve even answered your question at this point. I’m sorry. I hope I helped in some way. If not, feel free to try me again :)